Whew, this week has been kinda crazy. Really getting back into the swing of things like a regular class schedule, curfews, duties, homework, yada yada yada. This week we had Ted Cunningham speaking to us, he’s the pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church here in Branson. It’s also known as the church in the castle because it’s at an abandoned amusement park, which is definitely one of the coolest things about it.
But back to the point! This week he spoke about marriage, family, and parenting. It was extremely interesting. A lot of the stuff he addressed and spoke about, is stuff I’ve always seemed to know about relationships, but he explained why we believe that and went more in depth with ideas. There were a quite a few light bulb moments where I would just stop, look over at whoever I was sitting with and we’d both just say “huh, that’s so true.” One of the things he talked about was boundaries and this is something I’ve always struggled with in all kinds of relationships. I’ve always thought boundaries were like building up a wall around yourself where you’re isolated, impervious, and lonely honestly. But putting up boundaries is just like putting up a fence, and there’s a gate that you put in, you have the lock and key to where you decide who comes in and out. This is to protect yourself from negativity, any kind of abuse, and hurt. We control who we have in our lives, what levels we take people to whenever we communicate, how much of our lives we entrust to other people, and it’s hard, especially for me because I’m usually really quick to trust people, open up, and tell you my life story. But, I’m beginning to realize the importance of keeping myself safe, learning who to trust, and who I can take to certain levels with me. This is a really hard lesson and I’ve had to learn it through hurt, but I’m quickly beginning to see the difference in how relationships are healthier, hurt is beginning to be healed, and I feel safer.
This was my little light bulb that I had go off this week that may not make a lot of sense and I know it’s still going to be a process in learning boundaries and learning how to construct my fence.
But back to the point! This week he spoke about marriage, family, and parenting. It was extremely interesting. A lot of the stuff he addressed and spoke about, is stuff I’ve always seemed to know about relationships, but he explained why we believe that and went more in depth with ideas. There were a quite a few light bulb moments where I would just stop, look over at whoever I was sitting with and we’d both just say “huh, that’s so true.” One of the things he talked about was boundaries and this is something I’ve always struggled with in all kinds of relationships. I’ve always thought boundaries were like building up a wall around yourself where you’re isolated, impervious, and lonely honestly. But putting up boundaries is just like putting up a fence, and there’s a gate that you put in, you have the lock and key to where you decide who comes in and out. This is to protect yourself from negativity, any kind of abuse, and hurt. We control who we have in our lives, what levels we take people to whenever we communicate, how much of our lives we entrust to other people, and it’s hard, especially for me because I’m usually really quick to trust people, open up, and tell you my life story. But, I’m beginning to realize the importance of keeping myself safe, learning who to trust, and who I can take to certain levels with me. This is a really hard lesson and I’ve had to learn it through hurt, but I’m quickly beginning to see the difference in how relationships are healthier, hurt is beginning to be healed, and I feel safer.
This was my little light bulb that I had go off this week that may not make a lot of sense and I know it’s still going to be a process in learning boundaries and learning how to construct my fence.